Six weeks of guest blogs was my plan, but God must have wanted seven! I couldn’t resist letting you meet one of my newest friends. Tiffany Bobkowski’s precious family will soon grow to six with the addition of a little girl from China. Their story is one the Jacksons are all too familiar with. As you read Tiffany’s latest post from her blog you’ll feel the excitement in every keystroke. If Tiffany is this excited about adopting a new member of the family, just imagine how God must have felt when He adopted you!
(An extra week got tacked on to Benjamin’s hospital stay, so we are looking forward to having him and Jennifer home around October 12th. Thank you for continuing to pray for both of them. I know you’ve enjoyed the break, but I’m going to do my best to be back with you next week – Lord willing and the creek don’t rise!)
We have been in a season of waiting and waiting and… waiting. Did I mention waiting? That’s God for you – time is not an issue for Him. Of course, His timing is always perfect and He is usually trying to teach you something during that season of waiting. And boy has He taught me some things, but I think I will save that for another day. Let’s get to the good stuff like introducing our precious little angel, our gift from God!
How did we come up with her name you ask? Well, Lian is actually the Chinese spelling for Leanne and Leanne is the name the agency gave her so we Americans could pronounce it. Of course, we liked it but in reality that is what our family has called her for the past 3 weeks so it just made sense to keep it. We do, however, want to honor her Chinese heritage so we chose to use the Chinese spelling for Leanne which is Lian. The super cool thing is that one meaning of the name Lian is “God has answered!” What?! Yes, yes he has! Kaylin has no cool story, we just like it! 🙂
So here is a bit of Lian’s story that we learned. She was abandoned at 3 months old at a baby safety island (which is a “safe” place that parents in China can leave their unwanted child with no questions asked) due to her heart defect called TOF. Shortly after she was found, Lian received partial heart surgery for her condition. This surgery saved her life and is sustaining her now, but was not the permanent procedure she needs. She will require full corrective open heart surgery shortly after we come home with her (praise God for insurance!). She is currently on a feeding tube because she has 70% lung functioning due to the TOF so eating/drinking takes a toll on her. She is also very little so she could use the extra calories. Doctors say once she has received the surgery she needs, she should no longer need the feeding tube and will be able to have a full, healthy and normal life (aside from the yearly cardiologist visits and possible restrictions on things like competitive sports). A side note – Olympic Gold Medalist, Shawn White has TOF so I am encouraged! She may or may not need an additional surgery in her teens or twenties but this surgery we hear is definitely much easier and not as complex.
God placed Lian on our hearts from the time we laid eyes on her. She has a sparkle and a smile that we all could not deny. Truth be told, I knew she was the one from the beginning. I just needed God to tell me over and over and over again that she was the one (I’m pretty sure I mentioned before that I am hard headed and stubborn). Thank the Lord for grace! The past 3 weeks have been exhausting for me. I was in a battle with the enemy (he’s real people) and he absolutely used my fears to torment me. No joke – I was in the pit, but I needed to be there so I could fully surrender our adoption to the one who holds our whole lives in the palm of His hands. Praise God, He was right there with me through the storm and didn’t let me stay there. I needed that battle to grow in my faith, trust and to wave that white flag. I can certainly get overwhelmed when I really think about or do research about TOF, but I know that this is where God wants us and there is no place I would rather be then in the center of God’s will (so much peace in that). Oh and let’s not forget that God is infinitely bigger than well anything (He’s real too people)! “The more we say yes to God, the more we will live in expectations of seeing Him. The more we expect to see God, the more we will. The more you experience Him, the more you’ll trust Him. The more you trust Him, the more you’ll open your hands in absolute obedience.” – Lysa Terkeurst. I know we are going to be so blessed by this little girl and we can’t even wait to bring her home!
So when will that be you ask? In 3-4 months depending on paperwork (of course)!! Although the waiting is always tough, we know it is coming soon and so we need to raise more money to bring Lian home. Yes, we found out that the last chunk of change was more than we anticipated (which is typically the case with adoption we have learned). I am sweating just writing this. We are SO grateful to our friends and family who have already donated to our adoption story. We wouldn’t be where we are without the support we’ve received. We do (humbly) ask our friends and family who have not donated to help be a part of Lian’s story in bringing her home to consider to do so. Airfare miles would be a definite way of blessing us as air travel will be a huge chunk of change. We also ask that you please continue to pray for Lian, specifically for strength in her little body, protection and complete healing of her heart.
How to Donate:
- Click on our “You Caring” link to make a donation securely through PayPal:http://www.youcaring.com/bobkowskiadoption
- Write a check or donate cash and hand deliver to myself or Neil (checks can made payable to us)
- Mail a check to us (email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org for our address)
Tiffany Bobkowski is a homeschooling mother of 3 who is currently in the process of adoption. She said “yes” to her husband over 15 years ago, and says it was the best decision she ever made. When she gets a spare moment she loves to curl up with a good book and a hot cup of coffee, laugh with friends, and spend quality time with her husband. See Tiffany’s blog at www.ourwalkthrulife.blogspot.com