Who knew choosing a mattress could be so hard! Deciding how much to spend on one is even harder. And I’d just like to know who can get a good night’s sleep on something that costs so much! All I know is I’m ready for one with a money-back guarantee on keeping me asleep the whole night.
In all our shopping around, we did meet a nice young salesman at one of the stores. After talking with us a while, he asked, “So, how long have you two been married?” I smiled and said, “33 years.” “Wow, that’s a long time” he marveled. I’m sure it amazed him since I don’t look much older than 33. (smirk) Then he asked me something I’ve never been asked before. He inquired, “What’s the secret to your success?” Hmm. I’d never really thought of it that way, so it took me just a minute. I’m sure I went a little deeper in my thinking than he meant for me to, but then that’s what I do, isn’t it? After the pause, I said, “I think it would have to be that we both love God.” He raised his eyebrows in response and said, “Well, I’ve never gotten that answer before. That’s a good one.”
I’ve thought about that conversation several times and wondered what other answers he might have gotten. I wish I’d thought to ask him. Here are a few I think he might have heard:
1) We communicate.
2) We’ve learned to fight fair.
3) We’re not afraid to admit when we’re wrong.
4) We each think more about giving instead of getting.
5) We encourage each other.
6) We dream together.
7) We go on dates.
8) We get on our mattress at the same time (and that’s all I’ll say about that one). 🙂
Yes, all of these are the essentials to having a fun, healthy and happy marriage, but none of them can add their true value unless they are wrapped in God. When we stay in God’s word we learn how to do each of these things His way. Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect; the Lord’s word is flawless.”
So, when looking for success in marriage, we should stay committed to God’s word and each other. When we decide that failure is not an option, reading and following the instructional manual is mandatory. Jesus might have been thinking about married people when He gave us the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” I’m so glad my husband memorized this rule.
So, now it’s your turn. I know I left some things out. What is the secret to your marriage success?
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Now, don’t forget to scroll on down to the comment box and tell me your secret to a happy marriage!