A teenager would probably give me a D in texting skills. I don’t know all those cute little abbreviations that save time. Neither do I know how to keep my phone from automatically changing my words for me. I’ve learned it’s not good to have the word “thing” suddenly change to “thong” without me realizing it. It gets me into serious trouble!
But I’ve got one word that almost always needs correcting. My big ole thumb hits the “i” instead of the “o” causing me to say, “I live you” instead of “I love you”. It happens almost every time.
I got to thinking about that the other day and realized maybe I should be saying “I live you”. Isn’t that what love really means? When we really love someone we live for them. We want what’s best for them. We see things from their perspective and we look for ways to make their days better. Sunday night, our life group talked about what it takes to make a good marriage. We talked about good communication, keeping God in the center and giving more than you expect. I think if you put all the ingredients of a healthy marriage in a pot and boiled them down you’d be left with one word staring up at you from the bottom – intimacy.
It’s very hard to create intimacy without talking. I know this because, believe it or not, I’m the quiet one. But I’m married to a man who knows just how to get me to talk and when to let me be quiet. He knows this because he’s taken the time to study my ways. He’s also not afraid to share his heart. A man who shares his hopes, dreams, frustrations, heartaches and laughter with his wife holds her heart forever. And, fellas, if you want physical intimacy share your heart and take care of her. She may seem independent and perfectly capable of taking care of herself, but the truth is she likes for you to take care of her. When she feels loved, respected, trusted and secure she has no problem giving herself to you.
God’s design for marriage meshes two lives together so intimately that one soon forgets where he ends and she begins. When God is the glue holding the two of them together they become inseparable. But, each has to have a measure of intimacy with God before it works like it’s suppose to.
Intimacy doesn’t happen over night and it doesn’t stop becoming deeper. It is always worth the time and effort. It can be heart wrenching and it can be great fun. It’s not until we understand intimacy on the human level, that we are capable of achieving true intimacy with God. He gave us each other to practice on and I want to get it right. There are many people in my life who get great big chunks of me and I give them gladly, but no one on earth gets all of me except Ron. I like it that way because I live him.
Speaking of marriage… if you live in the Guntersville area (or even if you don’t) there is a free marriage seminar by Jerry and Lynn Jones beginning Sunday and running through Wednesday. Ron and I have been to this and thought it was well worth our time. See the ad below for details. (By the way, the area code is 256.)